Things I have learnt..

As the new year rolls out and everyone is talking about fresh starts, new beginnings, re-planned endings and learning from the mistakes of the past year, I couldn't help but look back at the past years altogether.. And I realized that directly or indirectly, life chooses to teach us some lessons, whether we want to or not.

Over the years, seeing different ppl in different situations and sometimes going through some of them myself, I have had the opportunity of observing this chaos called life.. Not that it has readied me enough to handle anything.. but atleast when something sud-suddenly happens, it amuses me rather than bewildering me as it used to.. or hurting me as much.. or maybe I just stopped caring..

So, as I wish HAPPY NEW YEAR to the world, I think it's but appropriate to share the things I have learned along with the wishes.

 that life is full of lessons to learn!

Anyways, here is an (incomplete) list of things laws (in the order that it came to my mind) that I have learnt from experience - first, second & third hand.

• Whenever you boast/ talk with pride abt some ability/ capacity of your's , the total opposite will happen within the next few days.. and that too, to the knowledge of the same ppl to whom you boasted.. (This has happened every single time that I have boasted abt my resistance to cold or my driving abilities)
• When you expect the worst, all you get is bad which sort of feels good. (also applicable for movies.)
• When you are eagerly awaiting some instance to occur, it will happen at the moment you lose your patience which would make you miss the enjoyment of the moment.. or it will happen - but at an unexpectedly low level so that you will surely feel dejected... or it won't happen at all..
• If you keep talking negatively abt something, sooner or later it does start to go bad.
• The more you try to hide something from others, the sooner they will get to know.
• Every person that you trust a lot, will at one point surely break that trust.. atleast once..
• When you tell someone a secret and ask them to keep it a secret, it will go to atleast two other ppl.
• When you help a friend in need, they will remember you again when they are in need.
• No matter how good your intentions or actions are, if the other person wants to look at it wrong, they will find a way to do so.
• Every person who gives you an advice will frown at you when you give the same to them. (Corollary of the same - No person will readily follow their own advice.)
• A person will list quite a few number of qualities that they expect from their partner.. and then fall for one who doesn't meet most of them!
• Just coz a person likes you doesn't mean they will love you.
• Just coz you love/ care for a person, does not mean they will love/ care for you back.
• If a person isn't looking for love/ care from you or is looking for more love/ care from someone else, no matter how much you do, it is gonna remain unnoticed.
• Something that you have always joked abt someone (who has taken it sportingly) will one day offend that same person for no apparent reason.
• When you most want someone to be there for you, you will be abandoned. Conversely, when you least expect it, you will find someone supporting you.. usually, that someone would also be the last person you'd expect it from..
• It's always the small things that matter.
• You can be with a whole group of friends and feel all alone. Conversely, you could be all alone at the top of a hill and still feel connected.
• If you keep looking optimistically at things, you will soon reach a point where nothing seems that bad.
• What impression others have of you usually depends on the last good or bad thing that you did that affected them directly or indirectly.
• When you pray for simple/ small miracles, they will come true making you wish you had asked for something bigger/ better.
• You can spend a couple of years with someone and still not know them.
• Ppl will be nice to you as long as there is even a slightest chance that they may need you.
• When you are trying to prove a peculiar instance to someone, you won't be able to reproduce it in front of them (Slightly twisted Murphy's law).
• What you have achieved with great difficulty and effort, someone else would have/ will shortly achieve the same thing easily or achieve more with the same effort.
• When you think you know everything, you will find one person who knows more than you. Conversely, when you think you know nothing at all, you will find one person who knows less than you.
• When you are happy abt the situation you are in, you will find someone in a better position thereby reducing your happiness. When you are in a sad situation, you will find someone in a worse situation thereby reducing your sadness.
• No matter how bad things look like, they will surely get better.
• Ppl will more readily accept what kind of person you are from others than trying to find themselves. Ppl who do try to find for themselves, usually turn out to be good friends.
• When you have been trying to remember someone's birthday/ anniversary/ imp day for a whole week in advance, you will forget it on that day.
• If you have been meaning to call/ contact someone for quite sometime, they will contact you before you contact them, thereby making it look like you didn't remember them.
• Right when you think you have covered all your expenses and you have the right amount of money left, you will find something that requires you to spend that money thereby going into debt.. Additionally, the month you decide to save a lot would also be the month that you spend the most.
• When you do something for which you are eagerly waiting to be appreciated, most of the ppl around you would not even have noticed that you did it. Inversely, if you do something that you don't want ppl to notice, you will find that more ppl than you are comfortable with, would have  noticed it.
• When in a group of friends who are teasing you, the person who supports you will soon do something to pull your leg more than the topic for which they supported you.
• If there is deadline for a piece of work,  you won't remember/ get time to work on it, till the 11th hour.
• An easy job that you held up till the last minute will take longer than you expected.
• Whenever you are in an hurry to get some work done, you will come across a large number of improbable distractions that will shorten your time considerably.
• A work that you did hurriedly and not to your own self's full satisfaction will get accolades from everyone.
• Everyone except the person you have a crush on, would know about it.
• The person who never reciprocated your feelings would do so after you have moved on or stopped caring.
• The girl that you like very much will be either a. married, b. much older than you, c. very highly committed and that too, almost always, to an undeserving guy.
• Even if you have not heard of Murphy's law, it or one of it's numerous variant will surely affect you at the most critical time.

IN SHORT

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